Children who are autistic – that is those who score higher on the SQ part of The Children’s Empathy Quotient and Systemizing Quotient than they do on the EQ can have a lot of behavioural problems as a result of their parents making them suffer autism because of their parent’s challenging behaviour.
Children who are autistic have particular personalities – I know because I was one. They like to have a routine, such as eating the same things on the same day of the week, or going to the same places on these same days. When this happens without their parents making a fuss then they are not disabled with autism, but enabled as an autistic.
Sometimes though their parents lack the ability to understand and communicate with them due to poor social skills on the parents’ part. For instance they will change their child’s routine without even telling them, and this behaviour of these insensitive parents has a knock-on effect with their child whose behaviour also changes for the worst.
If parents were to do something about their behavioural problems, such as wanting to stop their child from being autistic and instead be more like them, then their child would be much happier. Parents who refuse to do anything about their bad behaviour risk causing emotional stress to their autistic child, which can only mean their parents will disable them to the extent that those parents cause them to have autism.
The solution is for parents to undertake social skills training and maybe cognitive behavioural therapy so they can become aware of how their behaviour is affecting their child so that they do not cause their child to suffer from autism. For instance they could learn how to understand their autistic child’s theory of mind, so that they don’t inflame situations by not being able to read their child and respond to them appropriately.
This is a major problem facing autistic children – the inability of others to see where they are coming from.This results in miscommunication, where those who aren’t autistic lack the interpersonal skills to be able to speak with autistic children without getting offended and without treating the autistic person as if they are the problem. It is the people who can’t read autistic children that have the problem and it is them that need to change. By not changing, not only are they causing themselves to have autism – by not being able to interact with autistic people at a normal developmental level – but they are causing their autistic child to suffer autism as well.